11 Reasons why women lose interest when you’re getting closer
When you’re trying to pursue a woman, you’re interested in having a serious relationship with you might notice her pulling away and won’t know why she’s acting this way. It could be that she finds your behaviour possessive or maybe her feelings for you are different. There are many reasons she may pull away from you when you get close so think about the following reasons and see if any apply to her.
1) You’re being too possessive
When you know you have strong feelings for someone you want to show it but men are more reserved about expressing themselves so you might do things like text or see her more often or try to get more involved in her life instead of telling her how you feel.
2) She wants a casual relationship
Not all women want a serious relationship with every guy they date, some just want a hookup or friends with benefits type of situation but it’s not seen as being okay for a woman to just want sex so she won’t tell you that. She’ll go out with you a few times because she likes you but she knows you’re not going to be her boyfriend so she’ll keep an emotional distance when she realizes you’re starting to fall in love with her.
3) You’re moving too fast
People move differently when it comes to relationships, some fall in love quickly while others need time to get used to the idea of being in a serious relationship. If you’re moving faster than she is then she’s going to feel confused or nervous because she knows you feel differently than her. This can be overwhelming and she’ll need time to get used to it and to make sure her feelings for you are real. She’ll pull away from you when she does this but get close again when she’s ready.
4) She doesn’t know how she feels
When you are possesive with her, you might be sure of your feelings and have no doubts about dating her but if she’s unsure of how she feels then she’s going to pull away when you get too close. This doesn’t mean she wants to break up with you, it just means that she needs time to figure out how she feels and where she wants the relationship to lead to. She needs some time and space to do this because she doesn’t want you putting pressure on her or trying to influence her decision.
5) She doesn’t want another broken heart
If she’s recently had her heart broken and you’re the first guy she’s dated since then she might be scared of this relationship ending badly too. Pulling away from you has nothing to do with you and is her way of protecting herself. You need to give her space and be supportive so your actions and words show her that you’re not going to break her heart too. Gently remind her that you love her and understand that she’s been hurt before so she knows you’re on her side.
6) She doesn’t feel the same way
If she knows she doesn’t feel the same way as you do then one of the first things you’ll notice her doing is pulling away from you. She either realizes she doesn’t feel an attraction to you or she likes you more as a friend instead of as a lover. She’s preparing herself to tell you and is trying to find the right way to do it so that she doesn’t end up hurting you. This is her getting ready to break up with you or her way of trying to see if her feelings will change once she’s gotten to know you better.
7) She’s scared of how strong her feelings are
Falling in love is scary, especially when it happens fast and unexpectedly. She may be feeling overwhelmed by how strong her feelings are for you and she needs to take a break so she can process them. This might be her first time falling in love and she doesn’t want to make a mistake because she knows that you don’t think clearly when you’re in love. She needs to deal with her emotions so she feels more stable and ready to date.
8) She has feelings for more than one person
It is possible that she’s struggling with having feelings for you and another guy and she doesn’t know which one to pursue. She wants to make the right choice so she won’t be able to give you all of her attention because she’s testing things out with the other guy too. She’ll keep her distance while she’s trying to figure things out and will try not to fall too far in love until she’s ready to commit to one of you.
9) You’re not making your feelings clear
Men are known for being closed off with their feelings so even though you like her and want to keep dating her she might not know it. your actions might not be enough to show her how you feel and she’ll pull away because she thinks you’re not serious about her. Try telling her how you feel because it might make her understand you better and she’ll start making more of an effort to make the relationship work.
10) She doesn’t know how to be more open
Some people aren’t naturally open with their feelings and try to protect themselves when they feel like they’ve gotten too close to someone. If your girlfriend is this type of person then her behaviour has nothing to do with you and is part of her personality which you need to accept. You can show her that you’re still there for her by letting her take things at her own pace and not making a big deal out of the way she deals with emotions.
11) She wants you to break up with her
It’s awkward and painful breaking up with someone and most people avoid it if they can and hope that things will either end naturally or the other person breaks up with them. She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or deal with a break up so she’ll pull away from you and hope that you realize things aren’t working out. She’ll keep doing this until your break up with her or until she can’t take it anymore and ends things herself.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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