10 Tips for couples to survive their first holiday together
The first holiday together as a couple can lead to fighting or stress if you don’t plan ahead. If you don’t want the holiday to ruin things between the two of you and you want to work on building a healthy relationship then you need to do things like make decisions together and picking arguments that are worthwhile. These things will make your holiday together run smoother and both of you will have wonderful memories to look back on.
1) Choose where to go on holiday together
You won’t have to be picking arguments if you take the time to discuss where you want to go on holiday and make the decision together. This is important and should be the first thing you do because you want to go some place that both of you can enjoy. You need to choose a place that’s easy to get to, has affordable activities and is something that both of you are looking forward to experiencing.
2) Talk about what each of you wants to experience
You probably have different interests than your partner so you should talk about what you’d like to see and do on holiday and describe how you’d like it to go. This gives them an idea of what you’re looking for and helps them think about what activities you can do together and which ones you can do apart. Ask them to talk about their ideal holiday and think about what you can do to make their dream a reality then start picking out activities that will make your holiday fun and exciting.
3) Picking arguments is important
Picking arguments is important while you’re on holiday because you don’t want to ruin the trip by fighting over stupid stuff. If your partner wants to change plans or you can’t agree on something then take a time out before the fight escalates. Think about whether the issue is worth fighting over and being a permanent memory of you holiday together because this can help you realize that it’s not a big deal after all.
4) Have a planned itinerary
Having a planned itinerary can help you survive your first holiday together because it gives you an idea of what’s going to happen and when which makes you feel more prepared. This will cut down on fights during the trip because you’ve already discussed what attractions to visit and you’ll have an idea of what the holiday is going to be like. Try to have a daily plan of what to do so you have plenty of time to go sightseeing and visit the attractions that are important to each of you but also schedule in some spare time for last minute changes or new attractions that you didn’t know about before arriving to your destination.
5) Try something new
If you’re adventurous it could be a new experience like bungee jumping or sky diving and if you’re a foodie it could be a new type of cuisine. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as it’s something you can experience as a couple because this is about making special memories with the love of your life. The focus is less on creating a good photo for social media and more on pushing boundaries and having fun together and doing something that you’ll always remember.
6) Spend some time alone
Spending time alone is something that happens in healthy relationships and that shouldn’t change when you’re on holiday. You need to make sure you spend some time by yourself because this will give you a break from your partner and you’ll be less likely to feel smothered by them. During this time you could do an activity that your partner isn’t interested in or you could use it to re-energize yourself by having a snack or taking a walk around the neighbourhood.
7) Talk about a budget
You need to talk about a budget before you leave and try to keep to it while you’re on holiday. By making a budget before you leave you’re making sure that the activities you do are something both of you can afford to do or find cheaper alternatives if one of you can’t afford something. You also need to make sure you stick to it while on holiday because if you don’t then you might go into debt with your credit cards and that’s going to add stress to your relationship. You don’t want to ruin a good holiday by fighting over money so you need to deal with it in a calm responsible way before it becomes an issue.
8) Don’t forget about romance
Healthy relationships keep the romance alive because it’s a way of deepening the bond and showing each other how much you’re still in love. Don’t get too wrapped up in the excitement of being on holiday because you don’t want your partner to feel ignored and your first holiday together should be about taking the next step in your relationship. You can incorporate romance into your holiday by surprising your partner with dinner at a nice restaurant or buying them a souvenir they’ll treasure forever but keeping it a secret until you’ve gone home. You want to show them they’re always on your mind and that you’re happy to be with them.
9) Assign roles for before and during the holiday
Assigning roles for each of you will help divide the work that comes with planning a holiday and stop one person from feeling like they’re doing everything. This will evenly distribute the stress so it doesn’t seem as difficult and knowing what your job is while on holiday will also help it go smoothly. When you assign jobs you need to think about which one of you would be better at booking flights and accommodation, and who will be better at things like finding attractions to visit and packing. This will help you learn how to work as a team and help you feel closer to your partner.
10) Live in the moment
Nearly everyone shares their holiday on social media and takes a million selfies or photos of what they’re doing, eating or seeing. This is a bad habit to get into because it will make the holiday seem less real or exciting because you’re too busy trying to get the perfect picture. You need to live in the moment and truly experience it so that it becomes a lasting memory with real emotions and thoughts. You should only take pictures of special places or moments because they’re memories you’ll want a photo of but don’t waste time creating an image that does nothing to enhance the bond between you and your partner.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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