8 Ways to know if your relationship will turn into a sexless marriage
A sexless marriage can happen slowly and without you realizing it until the intimacy between the two of you is gone and you don’t know how to get it back. Some relationships can survive being in a sexless marriage but it’s going to lead to more problems between the two of you and neither of you are going to be as happy as you used to be. To stop this from happening to your relationship you need to look out for the signs of being in a sexless marriage and making an effort to change things around when it starts to happen.
1) You start seeing them as a friend
When you start seeing your partner as a friend or roommate then you’re close to being in a sexless marriage because it means the spark of lust and intimacy is gone. You’re used to them being around but you no longer desire them and once you start acting like friends there’s a good chance it’s going to stay that way. You have to always be sexually attracted to your partner, even if it’s in a small way, because that will make you want to have sex with them. When you see them as a friend you need to remember why you were attracted to them when you first started dating and find new things about them to be turned on by.
2) There’s no more intimacy
Intimacy in and out of the bedroom is something you need to have otherwise you’re going to end up in a sexless marriage. Without intimacy you’re not going to feel close to your partner and it creates a distance between the two of you. There has to be small loving touches smiles, snuggling and sharing secrets to create a strong bond that most couples need for an active sex life. It’s easy to forget how important these small gestures are so you have to remember to make them a regular part of your everyday life.
3) Sex is no longer spontaneous or exciting
When sex is no longer spontaneous or exciting you’ll slip into a sexless marriage and won’t realize it until something makes you remember how much fun sex used to be. You’ll want to change things but you’ll be so used to the way things are that you won’t know how to bring the excitement back. This is why you have to avoid falling into a sex routine and have sex now and again on the spur of the moment and be willing to try new sex positions or toys. When sex is fun you’ll want more of it and there’s less chance of you falling into a sexless marriage.
4) One of you is shy about sex
If one of you is shy about sex then it puts all of the work on one person and the stress of that could lead to a sexless marriage because it’s a difficult situation to deal with. You have a hard time figuring out if your partner is in the mood so you avoid initiating sex because you don’t want them to turn you down. It’s better to ignore it and pretend your sex life is fine. You have to make an effort at finding a way to be more open about sex and be willing to find ways to help your partner be more comfortable with it so that you can have a healthy and active sex life.
5) You have a busy daily schedule
You’re so tired of trying to get everything done on time that you just want to relax and you don’t feel very sexy. All you want to do is sleep and you don’t have time to focus on your relationship. If you lead a busy lifestyle you need to carve out some personal time for yourself so you can unwind and some romantic time for you and your partner so you can try new sex positions or renew the feeling of intimacy.
6) You’re self-conscious about your body
When you’re self-conscious about your body you may want to have a sexless marriage because you don’t feel attractive and don’t want your partner to see how you look. You’ll do your best to be seen wearing clothes at all times and you’ll be fine with intimacy as long as you don’t have to be naked or touched in areas you’re embarrassed by, like your stomach. You need to work on your mindset before you work on getting out of a sexless marriage because only your confidence can change things. You can exercise more, eat healthier and talk to your partner about how you feel so they can be understanding and supportive.
7) You don’t watch anything involving sex
When you don’t watch anything sexual with your partner it can affect you by decreasing your interest in sex which plays a part in developing a sexless marriage. It’s important to occasionally watching sexual things together, either a romantic scene in a movie or porn, because you may end up becoming aroused or seeing new sex positions you’d like to try. Sex scenes can get your excitement and imagination going and you’ll want to deal with that by having sex with your partner. You could also try watching something you know will turn your partner on so they’ll be the ones to initiate things and be more involved in getting your sex life back on track.
8) You go to bed at different times
Going to bed at different times can lead to a sexless marriage because you’re physically apart and there’s no chance of initiating sex. It’s also an issue because there’s no intimacy, like snuggling, that you need to feel emotionally close to each other and it can make your partner feel like you’re ignoring them. This is going to affect all areas of your relationship and you’ll drift apart. It’s important to make an effort to go to bed around the same time when you can so that you can do things like talk about your day, relax together, have time for intimacy and sex. When you make bedtime a ritual for the two of you it’ll feel more natural to incorporate sex into the routine and you can occasionally try new sex positions to make it something yo look forward to doing.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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