In love with a married woman? 10 Signs it’s time to end it
Being in love isn’t always a good thing, it can make your life complicated and sometimes you need to end a relationship before things go too far. This is especially true when you’re having an affair with a married woman because this can leave you brokenhearted as well as ruining a marriage and affecting the lives of children if either of you have any. A brief fling is easy to hide but there are signs you need to look out for that will tell you that it’s time to end things between you and her even though you’re still in love.
1) She wants to hookup regularly
When you’re in a love you want to spend as much time together as you can because passions are running wild but this can lead to risky behaviour. The married woman you’re seeing may be addicted to the rush of sneaking around and wants to hookup with you regularly instead of just now and again. This is going to increase the chances of her getting caught cheating and you don’t want to deal with the consequences of that.
2) She invites you to her house
If the married woman you’re seeing is over her marriage and doesn’t care if she gets caught with you then she’s going to be more bold about her actions. She’s going to want to go out on dates with you and invite you to her house when she wants to hookup instead of meeting at your place. This is when you need to slow things down or end it if you’re not ready to be open about the affair.
3) She’s thinking of ending her marriage
There’s a big difference between having a fling and getting a divorce so that the two of you can be together without having to sneak around. Even though you’re in a love with her, you need to be sure that you’re serious enough about the relationship to take a big step like that. If she’s thinking of getting a divorce to be with you and you’re not sure if you you’re ready to take the relationship to the next level then you need to quickly end it before things get any more out of control.
4) You want more than a hookup
Going on dates, spending quality time together and meeting each other’s friends and family is something you do when you’re in love because that’s part of a normal relationship. You’re going to miss out on these moments when you’re dating a married woman because you need to be discreet and eventually you’re not going to be happy about this. You’re going to want a more traditional relationship and that’s going to put a strain on the affair until you end things with her.
5) Your feelings of shame are growing
When you’re with a married woman there are other feelings too, like nervousness and shame, and these are going to get stronger as the affair goes on. Your mental and emotional health are going to take a toll and you need to break up with her so that you can start to get yourself back on the right track.
6) Your dating life is dead
Your dating life shouldn’t be dead just because you’re in love with someone that you can’t be with, an affair is someone you see on the side. You’re missing out on the benefits that come from a traditional partner, like having someone you can spend quality time with and be able to go out in public with. If you’re devoting all of your time to a married woman and you know it’s not going to end with the two of you in an exclusive relationship then you need to break up with her or keep seeing her but make an effort to date someone you can be with full-time.
7) Both of you want different things
When you’re in love with someone it’s important that both of you are on the same page and want the same things otherwise there’s going to be conflict and the relationship will end badly. You need to have an open and honest talk with her about how you see the affair progressing and how you want the outcome to be. If you want an occasional hookup and she wants a boyfriend then neither of you are going to end up happy and you need to break up before things get too serious.
8) You’re jealous of her husband
You need to keep a balanced perspective when you’re in love with a woman who’s already in a relationship and accept that she has other commitments, like her husband and children. Getting jealous because she can’t see you when you want her to or if she cancels plans at the last minute isn’t healthy and your emotions are going to change. You’re going to start feeling jealousy more often and this is going to make you be more possessive which isn’t a way you want to act with the person you’re in love with.
9) She wants you to fix her life
It’s natural to share your problems and expect moral support from the person you’re in love with but this is more complicated when it’s an affair. Not only are you going to listen as she talks about work and what she did on the weekend, you’re also going to listen to her complain about her marriage and why it isn’t working out. Since you’re in love with her you’re going to try and be supportive but she might use you as a way of fixing her life. She’s going to see you as a lover but also a surrogate therapist and you don’t need to get involved in the problems she’s having at home.
10) You know you’ll never be a priority
Knowing you’ll never be a priority isn’t normal in a relationship but this is something you’re constantly reminded of when you’re having an affair. You’re going to be a dirty little secret and she’s going to give you attention only when she’s not busy with work, her children, her husband and her friends. Being in love with her isn’t going to be a satisfying experience and you’re going to feel bitter about how you’re being treated.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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