9 Reasons why women break up over the holidays
The holidays are supposed to be fun and about making memories with your partner but it’s also a popular time for couples to break up. There’s a variety of reasons women choose this time to make this move and the added stress that happens this time of year may have been the final straw for her. You probably won’t see this coming unless you know why women break up over the holidays so knowing the reasons can help you look out for the signs and prepare yourself for what’s about to happen.
1) She’s thinking about their future with you
During the holidays women think about their future for two reasons: they see the kind of life other women, like friends and coworkers or sisters, have and the upcoming new year makes her re-evaluate what she’s doing with her life. She’s thinking about what life is going to be like with you, whether or not you’re someone she wants to be with for the long term and if she’s better off single. She doesn’t see a future with you and is motivated to break up with you now so she can start the New Year by making plans and figuring out what she needs to do in order to achieve the life she wants.
2) She wants to start the New Year single
The break up may have been something she’s wanted for awhile now but she was hoping you broke up with her first or you might have a great holiday together and your relationship would get back on track. She’s tired of waiting for something to happen and knows she’s ready to move on to the single life so she’s going to do something about it. She wants to do it now so she can start the New Year with a clean slate so she’s going to break up with you over the holidays and hope that you’ll be able to spend time with your family to take your mind off it and make it easier for you to deal with.
3) She doesn’t want to fake happiness
Since the holidays is supposed to be a time of happiness and love it puts a lot of pressure on people to have the perfect relationship. If she’s no longer in love with you then she doesn’t want to spend the next couple of weeks faking it just because it’s what’s expected of her. That’s putting a lot of stress on her and she may not want to do that because she feels like it’s lying and is damaging to her integrity. She’s going to break up with you so she can avoid going through all of that and can try to salvage what she can of the holidays.
4) The last holiday with you was really bad
If the last holiday she had with you was really bad then she’s not going to risk it happening again this year. Most women can overlook things if they’re minor but if you caused her embarrassment in front of your family then she’s still upset about it because that’s a hard thing to deal with. It may also have been bad because of your behaviour, if you didn’t make an effort or you fought a lot, then this holiday it’s going to bring up old memories and hurt feelings. The trust between you is cracked and she’s not going to go through that experience again so she’s going to break up with you to protect herself.
5) She doesn’t want to meet your family
If this is your first holiday season together then you may think it’s time for the two of you to meet each other’s family. She’s going to break up with you if she thinks this is happening too soon or that you have unrealistic expectations of how it will go. She knows there’s going to be some embarrassment if you’ve bragged to your parents or siblings about how great she is because they’ll be paying close attention to her and she won’t be able to live up to expectations. It’s too soon to meet your family and knowing that you feel it’s appropriate is going to make her realize things are moving too fast and it’s time to break up.
6) She’s met someone at the work holiday party
The cause of the beak up may be another man in her life that you know nothing about. Many workplaces have holiday parties and these provide the perfect opportunity for flirting to get out of hand. Getting attention from another man can spark excitement in her and she realizes she misses the days of being wild and able to get laid by anyone she wants. She craves this feeling and doesn’t want to go back to the boring life she has with you. If she’s not the cheating type she’s going to break up with you and have fun with him.
7) Relationship issues flare up
The holidays are stressful and this puts a strain on your relationship so old issues are going to flare up. This makes her feel fed up and like the relationship issues are never going to be fixed. The extra stress of the holidays is going to make her less likely to want to make an effort to fix things and decide that it’s better to break up now. She’s reached her breaking point and is ready to move on.
8) She’s feeling neglected
If she was feeling neglected by you before the holidays and during them you’re too busy to spend quality time with her then she’s going to break up with you. She wants a man who can give her the attention that she needs from a partner and is going to find a man who treats her the way she wants to be treated. A man who can give her some attention and she knows she’s going to get laid may be good enough for her and thinks it’s better than what he gets from you.
9) She realizes the spark is gone
The happy and romantic feelings she usually feels during the holidays when she’s in love is gone and she’s going to realize things have changed more than she thought. She’s going to try and spice things up by buying new lingerie or being more affection but if you see it as just an excuse to get laid instead of rebuilding the spark then she’s going to leave you.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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