The 9 Most common sex dreams and what they might mean
Lots of things can happen in these dreams and they can represent secret desires or issues you need to deal with instead of just being about sex. Some of these dreams may freak you out, especially if they involve bdsm or a person that’s the same gender as you. There’s no need to worry though, you just need to learn what the most common sex dreams mean so you can understand what’s really going on.
1) A hot affair
Even if you’ve been dating your partner for awhile and are in a committed relationship that doesn’t mean you won’t dream about having a hot affair with a stranger or someone you know. These types of sex dreams aren’t really about having an affair, they’re about how you feeling in your relationship. Deep down you miss the excitement that you had when you first started dating and you feel like something is missing in your relationship. Part of you is trying to fill that void by giving you a wild dream and you’ll keep having them until you work on your relationship.
2) Sex in public
Sex dreams about being intimate in a public place, like at work or outside, are common and when you wake up from them you tend to feel a thrill going through you. You’re dreaming about sex in public because you’re craving excitement so think about making some changes to your life. You can be more adventurous by talking to your partner about trying a new position or buying a toy to use during sex. You need to make sex more fun and this can also help improve your relationship because you’re spending more time together.
3) Your ex
Your ex is going to be in a lot of your sex dreams if you have unresolved issues from your break up. These dreams can be romantic ones where it’s like you never broke up or they can be full of anger and bdsm. They don’t mean you want to get back together with them or that you miss how great sex was with them, it means they’re on your mind for a reason. You need to figure out how you feel about them and if you’re still upset about the break up. You can try to resolve your issues by talking to a friend about your ex or write your thoughts down as a way of dealing with it.
4) Sex with someone of the same gender
If you’re straight then you may find it shocking to have sex dreams that involve someone of the same gender as you. These dreams can be enjoyable but this doesn’t mean that you’re becoming confused about your sexuality because they have nothing to do with orientation. To understand what these type of sex dreams mean you need to think about how you felt during the dream, what excited you and what you were most focused on. If you were experiencing bdsm then it may do with you feeling powerless in your everyday life and if it was loving then you may be feeling happy with how your same sex friendships are going.
5) Experiencing bdsm
Bdsm is about power dynamics so if you’re feeling weak in your everyday life then this is going to affect your subconscious. You’re going to have sex dreams about someone dominating you because this is your mind’s way of dealing with how you feel, you go through it while you sleep so the feeling isn’t as strong when you’re awake. You may also have dreams about bdsm if you’re stressed out because you need a break and dreaming about being submissive while someone takes care of things is your way of trying to find some peace and quiet.
6) Your boss
Sex dreams about your boss are common because they’re someone you interact with on a daily basis and they’re in a position of power which makes them an important part of your life. This power aspect can add an element to bdsm to the dream which re-asserts your role as being submissive to them. You may dream about having sex with them at work if you’re worried about pleasing them or know that you have a work project that’s due soon. Some people have a crush on their boss but they can’t do anything about it so if that’s happening with you then you’re going to dream about having forbidden sex with them. These dreams are about how you interact with your boss and how you feel about your current place at work.
7) Your friend
You may never be interested in dating your friend and have no sexual attraction to them but it is possible for you to have dreams about them that make you uncomfortable. You may have passionate sex dreams where you and your friend can’t keep your hands off each other and when you wake up you’re ashamed of how much you enjoyed it. This can be confusing for you but when you have this kind of dream it doesn’t mean you secretly have a crush on them, it means that you care about them and are missing being around them. This desire takes the form of an intimate dream but it’s about you wanting to see them again or spend more time with them.
8) Someone you hate
It’s unexpected when you have sex dreams involving someone you hate because you don’t know why you’d think of them in that way. These dreams also sometimes involve bdsm, with you in the dominant role, which stirs up even stronger feelings in you. These dreams aren’t really sexual in nature and are a reflection of how you feel towards this person. You have many pent up feelings towards them and this is your way of expressing them without realizing it. The bdsm aspect is about you letting go of your aggression and feeling control over the situation.
9) Being part of an orgy
Some sex dreams involve multiple people and you find yourself in the middle of an orgy where you’re trying to satisfy everyone. There’s hands all over you and you want to do everything at once. This may seem like a fun dream at first but it really means that you’re overwhelmed. You’re being pulled in different directions and feel like you have a lot of people depending on you. You need to find a way to relax and focus on your own needs instead of everyone else’s.
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