10 Tips on how to approach sleeping over at her place like a gentleman
Sleeping over for the first time can be a tricky situation because you want to make a good impression and have the night be a special one. You want her to know she made the right decision about taking the relationship to this new level and that you’re a gentleman who knows how to act appropriately. By giving her a great night in such a personal place for her you’re going to make her imagination run wild. She now sees you in a different way and feels closer to you than before which heightens her desire for you. This is why it’s important to take the right approach to sleeping over, it can have a big impact on the way she feels about you.
1) Ask what her plans are for the next day
You don’t want to plan a lazy morning in bed with her if she needs to get up early for work and you don’t want to leave early for your job if she’s already made plans for a fun day together. Listen carefully to what she says because she may want you to stay the next day but doesn’t want to seem too eager. If she sounds coy then you need to clarify what she really wants.
2) Compliment her home
When you’re sleeping over for the first time she’s going to be nervous because she wants you to be comfortable in her home since it’s a reflection of who she is. To show her you’re a gentleman you can complement her home by saying how she has great taste in furniture or by admiring a piece of art on the wall. Don’t try to rush things to the bedroom because you don’t want it to be all about sex. Give her a chance to show you around and get used to the new surroundings. Unwind by having a drink and telling her you’re glad she invited you over.
3) Be respectful
Being respectful is a must when you go over to someone’s home because if you don’t it will ruin the evening very quickly and possibly end the relationship. You need to be on your best behaviour and find out what her house rules are because you don’t want to offend her. You also need to do what’s expected of a guest, like taking your shoes off and not making a mess. You need to remember that just because you’re sleeping over at her place it doesn’t mean you’re allowed to act like you live there now.
4) Bring condoms
Condoms are important to bring with you when you’re sleeping over because you don’t know if she has any there. By bringing them yourself you’re making sure that you don’t have to run out to the store or have risky sex that could result in a pregnancy. To be on the safe side you should bring a couple of condoms and if you don’t use them all you can leave them there for your next visit.
5) Take things at her pace
Taking things at her pace is going to make sleeping over go more smoothly because it shows her that you’re a gentleman who knows she needs to be comfortable with what’s going on. You can make gentle suggestions about looking forward to seeing the sexy underwear she’s wearing for you or that you’ve been thinking of her all day but don’t assume she wants sex right away. Let her offer you a drink and when you do get to the bedroom take time to make out and slowly get undressed.
6) Bring her a small present
It’s common courtesy to bring a small present when you’re a guest in a formal situation like a dinner party but you should do this even when you’re sleeping over at your girlfriend’s place. It’s an informal occasion but it’s a special one because your relationship is going to the next step. You can bring flowers, chocolates or a bottle of wine because it shows thoughtfulness and that you understand tonight’s important for you as a couple.
7) Admire her appearance
She’s nervous about you sleeping over, even if she’s stayed at your place before. She wants the night to go well and one of the ways she tries to make that happen is by making herself look attractive for you. She won’t tell you this but she’s spent ages doing her hair and makeup and picking out the perfect clothes and lingerie to wear. You can appreciate her efforts by admiring her appearance when you first get there and telling her she looks great and again later by saying how amazing she looks in her sexy underwear.
8) Give her lots of attention during sex
You can make sleeping over an even better experience for her by giving her lots of attention during sex. Make tonight all about her and what she wants by spending lots of time on foreplay, touching her in all the places she loves and ask her what she wants you to do to her. This lets her know you care about her sexual needs and reinforces the idea that she made the right decision to invite you over.
9) Cuddle afterwards
It’s usual for women to like to cuddle after sex and you can ruin the excitement of sleeping over if you immediately go to the bathroom to clean up or lie there ignoring her. She doesn’t want to feel like you’re just using her for sex so spend some time cuddling her, stroking her hair and talking. This makes her feel closer to you and it’s respectful to give her this type of attention after such an intense moment.
10) Don’t rush to leave
The worst thing you can do when sleeping over is being in a rush to leave. This spoils the moment and makes her feel unloved or wondering if she did something wrong. It doesn’t matter if you need to go somewhere or not, you have to spend the right amount of time together. If you have to go somewhere it’s respectful to let her know with plenty of warning and make sure that it’s a legitimate excuse to leave so she knows you didn’t see it as just a hook up. Once you do leave you can text her in a couple of hours to say you’re thinking of her and you miss her.
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