10 Ways to improve your sex life After 40
After 40 is when a lot of people notice a decrease in their sex drive and they don’t know how to regain their desire to get laid. This may happen to you and you don’t want to spend the rest of your life struggling with your sex drive so you need to find ways to increase your libido. There are a few simple things you can easily incorporate into your lifestyle that will help you start enjoying sex after 40.
1) Quit smoking and drinking
Smoking and drinking have a big effect on your sex drive because it reduces blood flow which can cause erectile dysfunction and the lack of blood flow can make you feel more tired because you’re not getting the oxygen you need. If you quit smoking and reduce the amount of alcohol you drink your sex drive will increase because you’re physically healthier and it’ll be easier for you to become aroused.
2) Relax with a cup of coffee
Relaxing with a cup of coffee can boost your sex drive because it will give you quality time with your partner and caffeine increases blood flow to the genitals of women as well as stimulating the part of the brain of the brain that controls arousal. You can snuggle up with your partner and have a cup of coffee while teasing each other with little kisses and touches to get your libido going.
3) Make sure you get enough sleep
Getting enough sleep is important because it decreases you stress levels and makes you feel alert and energized which is good for all areas of your health, including your sex drive. You should get into a proper sleep schedule that helps you falls asleep easily and lets you get as much sleep as you need because not everyone needs the recommended eight hours. A half hour before going to bed you should turn off your phone and do something relaxing like taking a bath or reading so your brain isn’t being overly stimulated then once you go to bed you should clear your mind instead of worrying about things.
4) Eat more aphrodisiac foods
If you want to get laid then aphrodisiac foods can help make your date romantic and put both of you in the mood. Foods that are known for increasing you libido include pistachios, watermelon, chocolate, bananas, pomegranates, strawberries, raspberries and peaches. You can sensually feed chocolate covered strawberries to your partner then take things further in the bedroom or have a romantic picnic with a variety of aphrodisiac foods then make love outside.
5) Have an exercise routine
Having an exercise routine will help you stay in shape and improve your overall health which will increase your sex drive. You feel better physically and you’ll have better stamina so you’ll want to have sex and you’ll feel more confident in your body so you’ll also feel sexier. To make things even more fun you can exercise with your partner and when your heart rate is pumping you might be in the mood for a little sweaty sex together. You can start out slowly by exercising for half an hour one or two days a week then gradually increasing until you get to a point where exercise is a regular part of your life and you can’t imagine going without it.
6) Don’t try hard to get laid
When you try to hard to get laid you could end up stalling your sex drive because you’re putting too much pressure on yourself and your stress levels will make it difficult to get aroused. This happens a lot when you notice your libido waning and you get frustrated so you try and have sex more often. You get into a negative mind space and your sex drive suffers because you tell yourself that you’re too old to get laid anymore. If you take a more laid back approach and tell yourself that you’ll get laid when the time is right then you’ll be more positive because you have something to look forward to.
7) Push your sexual boundaries
Pushing your sexual boundaries will give your sex drive a huge boost because it makes sex exciting again and you’ll want to live out all of your fantasies. Your imagination and libido will go wild and you’ll see just how many things there are that you still need to try. This will give you something to look forward to and could lead to even more kinky things, like watching porn with your partner to get new ideas. Sex will become an important part of your life again and you’ll make more of an effort to be intimate with your partner or seek out new sex partners on hookup apps like adultfriendfinder if you’re single.
8) Be more sensual
Being more sensual can help your sex drive because it’s putting less focus on the act itself and more focus on intimate things like emotions, touches and foreplay. This will help ease you into becoming aroused and sometimes taking things at a gentler pace can increase your libido because you’re taking the time your body needs to get to that point. Being more sensual can also help show you that sexual activities can be satisfying even if they don’t end with having an orgasm. This will put you more in touch with your sexuality and you’ll find it easier to feel fulfilled with the sex life you now have with your partner.
9) Be more open and loving
Feeling a close bond to your partner will help your sex drive because it makes the love you feel for them stronger and you’ll desire them more. You can achieve this bond by spending more quality time together, having honest conversations about what you want in and out of the bedroom and showing more affection. The love and infatuation you felt for each other at the beginning of your relationship will re-ignite. You’ll enjoy being together and that feeling will carry over into the bedroom where you’ll want to have a more active sex life.
10) Do Kegel exercises
Kegel exercises are something that both men and women can do to strengthen their pelvic floor muscles which will help you with your sex drive. They’re quick and easy to do plus they’re discrete so no one will know that you’re doing them. Kegel exercises involve tightening your muscles for a couple of seconds then relaxing and doing this in sets of 10. Regularly doing Kegel exercises will increase your libido because it can help you have a more powerful orgasm.
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