11 signs she only sees you as a friend with benefits but you see her as more
Being friends with benefits is a good way to get your sexual needs met without commitment but you might end up developing feelings for the other person. There are signs to look out for to help you figure out if she feels the same way or not so pay attention to how she acts. Does she look for friends online to hookup with or does she let you get emotionally close as well as physical? That can tell you a lot about how she views her friends with benefits relationship with you.
1) Torn between hooking up and dating
If the two of you seem to have different feelings when it comes to how serious your relationship is then it means she doesn’t feel the same as you. You know she wants to keep to hooking up and will try to honour that but you’ll want to take things further and start dating. You’ll keep these feelings to yourself though because she keeps you at a distance and only gives you attention when she’s in the mood for sex.
2) She keeps her personal life private
If she sees you as just a friends with benefit situation then she will keep her personal life private because she doesn’t want you to get too involved. This is her way of making sure lines don’t get blurred and you stay in the friend zone. You’ll only know the basic things about her like her age and the things she likes in bed but won’t know little details like who her friends are, what her hobbies are or what she’s really like as a person. You’ll want to know more but when you try she’ll give you vague answers or will change the subject.
3) You find ways to spend more time together
She’ll keep things all about sex and will leave as soon as she’s done with you because you’re not that important to her but you won’t want the moment to end so you’ll find ways to spend more time together. You’ll ask her to spend the night or make breakfast for her in the morning because you’re hoping that if she spends time with you that she’ll develop more serious feelings. You’re going to be disappointed because she’ll make an excuse to leave because she won’t want to hurt your feelings and you’ll waste time trying to come up with more ideas.
4) She sticks to her boundaries
She’ll keep you separate from her everyday life because you’re only there as an easy way for her to have sex without a relationship. She’ll expect you to keep an emotional distance and will set boundaries that she’s comfortable with to make sure that the casual relationship with you doesn’t change. After awhile you’ll get frustrated with this because you want more and will try to push her boundaries in small ways to get what you want.
5) She’s looking for friends online
She will keep looking for friends online because you’re not enough to make her happy or she’s compartmentalizing her life and keeping you in one area of it. She wants to keep her options open because she knows she won’t be with you long or because she’s using it as a way to make sure she doesn’t get too serious about you. You’ll notice that she’ll drop hints about you dating other people or mention how much fun she had going out with another guy.
6) She doesn’t want romance
A friends with benefits relationship is about sex and she doesn’t want to make things complicated by adding romance to it. She’ll going to keep things simple and won’t send mixed signals by being too affectionate or seeing you too often. You’ll do small romantic gestures like kissing, running your fingers through her hair or telling her how much you love being with her but she won’t return the affection and will make it clear that she’s not interested in you like that.
7) You plan dates
You’ll notice that you’re the one who’s always getting in touch with her and planning when to meet because she’s fine with taking a laid back approach You’ll want to be with her more often and will come up with date ideas that seem spontaneous and she’ll stop you by telling you she’s busy or asking if she can bring some friends along. She’ll limit the time she spends with you and will be more open to group activities because she doesn’t want to give you the wrong idea.
8) You’re thoughtful about the messages you send
When you send her a text you’re going to take your time to make sure that it sounds good and that it’s thoughtful. You want to send something that makes her feel good and shows her how you feel about her because you can’t say it to her face since deep down you know she’ll reject you. You see a difference when she texts back and that her messages are short and straight to the point because she isn’t emotionally involved.
9) You think about her all the time
You know you want her in more than just a friends with benefits way if you think about her all the time instead of just when you’re in the mood for sex. You’ll catch yourself thinking about her when you’re at work or when you’re bored at home and you’ll wonder if she does the same thing. She won’t be thinking about you at all if she wants to stay friends with benefits and will act happy but surprised when she hears from you.
10) She’s always careful about STD’s
She’s careful about STD’s and will always use a condom because she’s sleeping with other guys and expects you to be sleeping with other people too. She knows this isn’t a serious relationship and that there’s more risk of catching an STD when there’s no monogamy. If you want the relationship to be more serious then you’re more likely to stay faithful to her but that won’t change how she acts or feels.
11) You feel possessive towards her
If your feelings for her go deeper than they should then you’re going to feel possessive towards her when she flirts with other guys, mentions making friends online or cancels plans with you at the last second. You want to be with her and will get jealous when other people get her attention because you think she should know how you feel about her and will make more of an effort to be with you. She won’t care if you see other people and will stop seeing you if you make it obvious that you’re falling in love with her.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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