7 Questions to ask yourself before starting a relationship
Before rushing into a relationship you need to ask yourself some questions and be honest with the answers otherwise you might end up moving too fast. Do you really care for this person or is it limerence brought on by your desire to no longer be alone? You want to start a relationship for the right reasons so make sure you’re ready to make a commitment.
1) Are you ready to start dating again?
You need to make sure that you’re ready to start dating again because your relationship won’t be successful if you’re still thinking about your ex or still dealing with the break up. Mentally go through the process of dating and see how it makes you feel. You should be confident and looking forward to dating again instead of feeling sad or bitter.
2) How do you want to meet someone?
Decide how you’re going to meet someone new, whether it’s through a blind date, by going out to bars or by using dating sites like Victoria Milan. This will give you an idea of what you need to do in order to meet someone and you can either ask your friends to set you up on a blind date or start joining sites and making profiles on them.
3) What went wrong in your last relationship?
Think about what went wrong in your last relationship because you don’t want to make the same mistake again. If it wasn’t an issue and a gradual lost of interest then try to figure out what made the passion go out of the relationship. Try to understand what your role was in the break up and whether or not you could have done something different to change the outcome.
4) What will you do differently this time?
You should figure out what you will do differently in your new relationship so that it has a better chance of being successful before you start dating. Making changes in your behaviour and understanding what things to avoid will help you begin a new relationship in a smoother way because you now know what works and what doesn’t.
5) Is it love or limerence?
If it’s limerence, a deep obsessive type of love, then don’t pursue it because it’s irrational and it’s unlikely the other person’s feelings are that strong. If it’s love and you seem to be on the same level as the other person then give it a chance because this has a better chance of working out.
6) What type of relationship do you want?
The type of relationship you want is important because it will help you find someone who’s after the same thing and you won’t waste time going after people who want something different. Be clear about what you want otherwise you’re going to feel frustrated when things don’t go right and it will take you longer to find someone that’s a good match.
7) Why do you want to be with them?
When you’ve met someone that you’re attracted to take some time to think about why you want to be with them. Do they make you happy and you see a future with them or are you with them because you don’t want to be single anymore? Think about their good qualities and how they make you feel because you want to be with them for the right reasons.
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