8 Best tips to make a long-distance relationship work
A long-distance relationship is difficult to maintain and these relationships are known for their high rate of failure. This is why you need to make an effort at staying in touch and keeping things fun and interesting so that the distance makes as little impact as possible. Whether you and your partner are going through this temporarily due to being under quarantine or for the long-term due to other circumstances you want to make sure that you’re one of the lucky ones who can get through this with your love intact.
1) Practice open and honest communication
There needs to be a lot of trust between you and your partner if you want your long-distance relationship to work otherwise you’re going to wonder who your partner is hanging out with and if they’re still loyal to you. If you go out with friends don’t hide it because you don’t want them to think you’re spending time with someone of the opposite gender on a potential date, instead you should tell them who was there and what you did. You should also be honest about how much you miss them and talk about your other feelings so that they know what’s going on with you.
2) Talk about relationship boundaries
At the start of your long-distance relationship you need to talk about boundaries so that each of you know what is and isn’t acceptable behavior while you’re apart. You need to discuss if you’re going to be completely monogamous or if one night stands are fine to have, how often you want to talk to each other and what changes in your relationship that you anticipate and are okay with. This helps ensures that you and your partner are on the same page and there’s less likely of one of you doing something that could damage the relationship. If you think you may have crossed a relationship boundary you need to tell your partner because this shows your honesty and that you’re serious about making this work and you can work on being a better partner.
3) Don’t smother them
When you’re in a LDR you’re going to miss your partner and there will be times when this feeling gets overwhelming. You want to be with them so you start calling them more often and trying to be a bigger part of their life by asking them lots of questions of what they do everyday. They’ll appreciate your concern only for a little awhile and then it makes them feel like you’re smothering them. You need to find the right balance of keeping in touch and accept that there are some things you’re missing out on because you’re in a long-distance relationship.
4) Use dirty talk to spice things up
Dirty talk can be a fun way to spice things up between you and it doesn’t always have to be during sex, you can do it occasionally during conversations to be flirty and fun. If you’re trying to be flirty you can use subtle dirty talk and call her “sexy” or say “I dreamed about you last night, I can still feel your tongue on me. Maybe later I’ll tell you what you did to me.” During cybersex you can be more aggressive with dirty talk while masturbating and telling her that you’re pretending it’s her acting like a slut.
5) Buy some sex toys and lingerie
Your sex life is going to be very different when you’re in a LDR because it’s harder to make an emotional connection and make it feel like it’s more than just you masturbating. You need to be creative and use a variety of ways to enhance the experience. Dirty talk isn’t the only way to make cybersex fun; sex toys and lingerie can also be useful to have around. There are interactive sex toys you can buy that use an app so you can buy one and ship it to your partner so they can use it on themselves while you control it. You can use other sex toys on yourself but let your partner decide what you do with them or she can wear lingerie and make you edge as she slowly undresses while you beg for more.
6) Be creative with keeping in touch
Keeping in touch when you’re in a long-distance relationship can get boring quickly because you fall into a routine and it becomes a chore. That’s fine if you’re in quarantine and know you’ll be together again soon but if you’re going to be apart for more than a month or so then you need to be creative with how you communicate. You should have a schedule for when to talk so you don’t miss each other but you should also surprise them now and again by texting them “Good morning.” or sending them a letter or a gift. It shows them that you’re thinking of them even when you’re not camming.
7) Do activities as a couple
It’s important to still do activities as a couple when you’re in a long-distance relationship or in quarantine because it lessens the sensation of distance between you and makes you miss each other less. You need to find a balance between keeping your sex life and your everyday life as a couple alive so think of activities that you would normally do together. You can have a cyber-date night and eat dinner together in a candle lit room before leading to dirty talk and cybersex, watch a movie together online or play games. Write a list of things you do and choose a different activity to do each week until you can see other again.
8) Know the end game for the long-distance relationship
You and your partner need to discuss and agree on how you see the end game happening so talk about when you’re going to visit each other, if you’re eventually going to live together or if you want to get married. You need to know a basic timeline for how things are going to progress otherwise it’s going to be hard for you to see a real life with them and the LDR is going to end.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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