8 Reasons why sex with your ex partner is almost always a bad idea
Having sex after a break-up with your ex partner can be emotional because it brings back old memories and it’s annoying because part of you will know that you’re making a mistake. Think about the following effects of sex with your ex before going through with it.
1) Makes you second guess yourself
You’ll second guess yourself and wonder if the break-up was a good idea because it felt good seeing them again. You won’t be sure if you’ve made a mistake and will waste time going back and forth on the pros and cons of sleeping with them.
2) You don’t move on
It’ll bring back old feelings for them which will make it harder to move on. You won’t be in the mood to date because your sexual needs are getting met by your ex and you’ll be trying to figure out how you feel about the situation as well as the emotions from the break-up.
3) Emotional overload
There will be an emotional overload because you’re dealing with the break-up again. You have the pleasure of sleeping with them but afterwards you have to decide how to end things in a way that ensures there’s no lingering doubts about the state of your relationship. You’re going to feel confused, nervous, depressed and guilt which can be overwhelming.
4) They think you want them back
You might only be interested in sex but they won’t know that unless you specifically tell them which can lead to them thinking you want to get back together. If you assume they feel the same way you do then later on you might have to hurt their feelings by telling them the truth.
5) You’ll regret doing it
You’ll regret doing it because you know you took a step backwards instead of dealing with the break-up and moving on. You’ll want to forget it happened and will get mad at yourself for being stupid enough to have a hookup with someone you no longer want in your life.
6) There’s another break-up
After sex you’re going to have another break-up as you say goodbye to your ex again. This is going to feel awkward and bring back the negative emotions you felt during the first break-up. Your partner has feelings too about sleeping with you again and this could lead to the two of you fighting.
7) It feels empty
Sex is going to feel empty and meaningless because you’re not in love with them any more and you’re just using them. You know that it’s meaningless and you’re going to feel self-loathing which means you’re going to want sex again to satisfy your original craving.
8) Annoying uncertainty of what’s next
There’s an annoying uncertainty of what’s next because you won’t know if you’re broken up for good now, if you’re going to become friends with benefits or if you’ve re-ignited old desires and will get back together. You’re going to be constantly checking for texts from your ex to see if they want to get together again.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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