8 Subtle signs women test you during dating and why
When you’re dating someone and they’re either unsure about your loyalty or are trying to figure out how they feel about you they will subtly test you. The kind of tests she gives you are based on what she’s curious about, sometimes she wants to know if you’re only with her for sex and other times she’s going to be wondering if you truly love her or see a future with her. Since you don’t know that she’s testing you, you’re going to react in an honest way and do what your instinct tells you to. She wants to see what your reaction is because this is going to help her form a clearer idea of who you really are and if she’s been right or wrong about you.
1) Flirts with men in front of you
If she feels you’re not serious about dating her then she’s going to test you by flirting with men. She’s trying to see if you get jealous or angry about her behaviour or if you don’t care about her being attracted to someone else. She’s not going to be obvious about what she’s doing because she wants you to believe it’s real and not realize she’s testing you. She’s going to smile at other men, make flirty comments and act embarrassed when you catch her checking them out. She’s hoping you show her you love her by getting upset at what she’s doing and tell that if she wants to keep dating you then she needs to forget about other men because she has you.
2) Teases you about having a crush
Even people who are seriously dating have crushes but it’s how bad the crush is that affects the relationship. To test your commitment to her and see if you’re tempted to cheat on her she’s going to pay attention to how you act around other women and what you say about them to her. She’s listening for clues on if you have a crush on any of them. When she thinks you do she’s going to tease you about it and playfully ask if you want her more than your girlfriend. She’s not really joking though and is watching you closely to see if you look or sound guilty. She knows that if it’s a harmless crush you’re going to laugh and shrug it off but if the attraction is real then you’re going to feel bad about it.
3) Pretends she’s not in the mood for sex
Sex is important in a relationship but it tends to be men who want it more often. She knows you expect things to slow down in the bedroom, especially if you’ve been dating for awhile and the excitement has worn off but she wants to know what you’ll do if it goes on for longer than expected. She’s going to pretend she’s not in the mood and keep delaying sex until you start getting frustrated. She’s doing this because she’s hoping you’ll be more romantic or attentive to her to help arouse her or if you’ll easily give up on dating her and start making comments about breaking up if she keeps acting like she doesn’t want you anymore.
4) Asks if you’re interested in a friends with benefits situation
A FWB situation is something your girlfriend may suggest when she’s feeling insecure about your commitment to her and wants to give you an opportunity to leave. She’s testing how much you value your relationship with her and if being friends with benefits is something you would seriously consider so that you can date other people while still getting to be with her. She really doesn’t want you to take her up on her offer and is hoping you get hurt by it and tell her that you want to keep dating her and not get involved with anyone else.
5) Talks about missing the single life
It’s normal to miss the single life even though you love the person you’re dating and a casual comment about this does happen but if she mentions it more than a couple of times then she’s testing you. She has doubts about the relationship lasting long term and is worried you miss the freedom of being single. She’s afraid to ask you directly if you want to stop dating her so she’s going to open up the conversation by talking about it herself then waiting to see if you agree with her or ask her what’s wrong with the relationship because you think it’s going well. She’s making you focus on her but it’s really testing how you feel about settling down.
6) She asks for a big favour
Small favours are usually not a big deal for most people but big favours that take time and effort are ones that you usually only do for people you love. After dating for awhile she’s going to test you by asking for a big favour, like helping her move or asking you to surprise her with a romantic weekend trip. She wants to see if you’ll tell her to ask one of her girlfriends instead or if you’ll agree to help with making it into a big deal.
7) Asks to borrow your phone
A sneaky way to test the faithfulness of the person you’re dating is to borrow their phone and go through their messages. She wants to know if you have a friends with benefits situation going on behind her back and knows she can learn a lot from going through your phone. A lot of people are subtle about this and will just take the phone when their partner isn’t around but when she’s testing you she’s going to casually ask if she can borrow your phone for an hour because hers is low on battery. She doesn’t want you to know what she’s doing and wants to see if you’re hiding something from her and will give her excuses about why she can’t borrow it.
8) She mentions marriage and children
You may get nervous when the topic of marriage and children come up but if your girlfriend does this and it seems too early to be discussing these life changes then it’s for a reason. One reason is she’s testing you to see if you’re open to the idea of having that kind of a future with her and it may not be something that she’s seriously considering at the moment. She’s trying to get an idea of where the relationship may be headed and if you’re enthusiastic about spending your life together.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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