8 Signs you are still stuck in your “almost relationship”
Getting stuck in an almost relationship is something you want to avoid because these relationships never progress and leave you feeling drained. Romantic ideas fade over time because you’re not emotionally involved since you don’t see a future together and you’re always looking for relationship advice because you don’t know how to take things to the next level. If you feel like you’re stuck in a rut then your almost relationship might be the reason why and you need to figure out what to do about it.
1) You don’t know when the next step will happen
An almost relationship is called that because it’s stuck in place and you don’t know when your relationship will go to the next level and become a serious one. You’re in a position where you have feelings for this person and you may have had sex already but you’re not a couple and it feels like everything can easily end. You’ll tell yourself that you just need to wait and let things happen naturally but they never do. If you don’t know when you’re going to take the next step and neither of you have discussed it then nothing’s going to change and you’re going to stay stuck in an almost relationship. You can find ways of moving towards the next step by asking friends who are in committed relationships for relationship advice and see if they have any suggestions because they know you and can offer advice tailored on what they know about you.
2) The excitement is wearing off
Meeting someone new is exciting and romantic ideas fill your head as you think of all the things you’ll do together. If that excitement wears off quickly and doesn’t last long enough for the two of you to establish a serious relationship then you’re going to end up in an almost relationship. This may be a case of you getting caught up in lust and now you’re sort of in a relationship because you don’t want to admit that things weren’t the way you thought they were. You’ll still spend time with them and try to make things work because you keep hoping that the excitement will come back if you give it more time but it’s unlikely to happen.
3) You avoid talking about the future
After a certain point in a relationship couples will talk about the future, whether they want to become monogamous or move in together or get engaged. This is a big step in establishing your relationship and making a plan on how to take things to the next level. If both of you are avoiding talking about the future then it might be because you know it’s not a real relationship and there is no future for you.
4) You no longer have romantic ideas
Relationship advice is full of romantic ideas because romance is an important part of relationships and it makes everything feel happier and more positive. It brings you closer together and helps express how much you love each other. When you no longer have romantic ideas it’s because you’re no longer making an effort and have gotten used to going with the flow. This is part of losing the excitement you once had and if you want to stop being stuck in an almost relationship you need to be more romantic. Do something romantic like give her flowers or go on a date at a quiet, intimate restaurant and see if this changes how you feel. This will help you decide if you do want to date them and see if you can make things work with them.
5) You make excuses for why you’re in an almost relationship
Deep down you know you’re in an almost relationship if you’re always making excuses for why things are the way they are. You’ll say things like you’re not ready for a relationship right now, you’re unsure of your feelings or you’re too busy to commit so it’s better to stay close friends. This is how you justify being in this type of relationship and stop yourself from wondering about ending things. You’re going to keep coming up with excuses and nothing will progress until you run out of them. This is going to be emotionally difficult because you’ve spent so much time not facing reality and you’ll struggle with making a decision on how to move on.
6) You don’t know how to change things
If you don’t know how to change things then you’re going to stay in an almost relationship because it’s something you’re familiar with which makes it feel safe. First you need to figure out why you don’t know how to take the next step then decide how to actually move forward. The problem might be because you’re not ready to start a serious relationship or both of you have been unclear about your feelings and neither of you know where things are going to lead to. You’re going to stay in this limbo until you talk to each other honestly about how you feel and what type of relationship you want.
7) You don’t do things as a couple
When you’re in a real relationship you do things as a couple, like meeting each others friends and family, going on vacations together and making plans for the future. If there’s a distance between the two of you and you don’t do these kinds of things then it’s because you don’t know if you should since your relationship hasn’t been established. You’re going to stay in the awkward sort of friends but sort of dating zone if you don’t start making steps towards becoming a couple. You need to act like a couple in order to be a couple and this is how you’ll break out of the rut.
8) You don’t spend quality time together
You’ll notice you don’t spend quality time together and do things like spend time with each other’s friends, share personal thoughts or desires or have meaningful conversations. Instead it might be a friends with benefits type of situation or you spend most of your time doing superficial things like hanging out, sending short texts or just spending time with each other as a way of killing time. Quality time is important because it’s how you create a bond and start building a life together and this is what’s missing from your relationship.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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