8 Tips to have the best cybersex with your partner while in quarantine
Getting stuck in a quarantine is a likely occurrence these days and it’s forcing some couples to spend significant amounts of time away from each other. If this is a situation that happens to you then it’s going to affect your relationship in many ways, including your sex life. You can masturbate to take care of your sexual needs in the short term but you also need to make an effort at keeping the spark alive between you and your partner. A fun and exciting way to do this is through cybersex because you can do it at any time and any place plus you can use various toys or role-plays to make it interesting. Cybersex can help your relationship stay on track and ease the stress of being in quarantine until you can see each other in person.
1) Lead up to cybersex
You need to remember that cybersex is more than just the small window of time that you’re talking to your partner with the intention of having sex with each other. There’s the lead up to the moment and you need to use this time to build anticipation so both of you are dying to see each other and your arousal levels are sky high. You can start these days before the cybersex session by flirting with your partner in various ways. You can send them a sex text where you tell them how bad you want them or what you want to do to them and you can add a couple of sexy pictures to get their imaginations running wild. It’s also a good idea to not masturbate for a day or two so that your sexual energy is pent up and you can be more enthusiastic when you’re with your partner.
2) Don’t forget about foreplay
Since it’s been awhile since the two of you have been together it’s easy to get caught up in the moment and lose control but you need to take your time. You can still engage in foreplay during cybersex and it’s important to do this because it’s harder to get aroused when you can’t physically touch each other. Spend time turning each other on by talking about how much you miss each other and touch yourself while pretending it’s them. Use gentle touches on your erogenous zones and tell your partner how to touch themselves as you murmur how soft their skin is or how sexy they are. This is going to put both of you in the mood for cybersex and help make it feel more realistic.
3) Make it feel sexy and romantic
A lot of people masturbate when they can and don’t bother setting the mood because they only do that for special occasions but you should make an effort at doing this. Having a romantic mood can help the loving feeling between you and your partner and make it feel more like a sexy moment at home which makes it a meaningful experience. You can turn the lights down low and light some candles or have soft music playing in the background. Not only will this give cybersex a romantic feeling but is going to help you relax and enjoy the moment.
4) Use dirty talk
Having cybersex can make it easier for you to push boundaries because there’s less pressure since you’re not in the same room together. This can give you a sense of freedom to try new things and dirty talk can be one of them. You can start out gently during foreplay by telling them how sexy they look and gradually get dirtier as you get more turned on. Pay attention to how they react so you don’t cross the line and you can figure out what they like to hear so you know what to say to them. You can also send a sex text before things get started to help get them in the mood and their response can help you see if they like it when you use dirty talk.
5) Buy sex toys
Sex toys are great to use when you masturbate because they can give you new sensations to enjoy or give the moment a stronger feeling of kinkiness. You can use sex toys that are for self-use, like vibrators or paddles or you can buy app activated sex toys where your partner has the toy but you can remotely control it. To make things even more fun during cybersex you can give control of how you use the sex toys to your partner and only use the sex toy when and how they tell you to.
6) Explore fantasies
Cybersex can quickly become boring if you just log on and focus on having an orgasm which leads to you and your partner doing it less often which has a negative impact on your relationship. You can stop this from happening by keeping things interesting and exploring fantasies instead of just being online to masturbate together. You can share fantasies and use sex toys or outfits to enhance the experience and take turns living out your fantasies so both of you get a chance to make them a reality. Doing role-plays or playing sex games can help ease you into exploring fantasies if you’re shy about talking about what you really want.
7) Take care of both of your sexual needs
When you masturbate it’s easy to forgot that it’s a couple’s activity when it’s something you usually do by yourself so you need to pay attention to what you’re doing. Not only do you want to take care of your own sexual needs but you have to make sure your partner feels sexually satisfied as well. Take things at a pace that is good for both of you and slow down if your partner is having trouble getting in the mood. You can explore different ways to help get aroused and if you orgasm first then you need to make an effort at helping your partner have one as well.
8) Spend time together after cybersex
After sex is a time when most couples cuddle as they relax after an intense experience but you forget to do this during cybersex because the situation is different. You can still spend time relaxing together even if you’re not physically together by easing back into the moment. Be quiet for a while or make small talk and tell your partner how much you love them so that things don’t feel rushed. Spend time as a couple and make it about more than just sex, have it be a time where you feel emotionally connected.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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