9 Common mistakes men make when seeking younger women

Published by Emily Scott January 26, 2018 Categorie(s): Dating Tips

How to flirt with a younger girl seems like it would be an easy thing but some men make the wrong moves, especially when they’re using Australian dating sites like Adult Friend Finder to meet younger women. They say or act the wrong way and end up single because other men are better at picking up women which is something you don’t want to have happen to you.

1) Worrying about what other people think

Worrying about what other people think about the age difference between you and the women you will put stress on the relationship before it’s even started. You may say things to a woman that you’re interested in that you don’t mind her being younger than you or that you’ll understand if she doesn’t want a serious relationship because of what her friends might think. This will make her think you’re too worried about how you’re perceived and she will date someone who isn’t embarrassed by her. You also shouldn’t be afraid to take her out to public places for fear of people staring or making comments because their opinions don’t matter. You need to date someone that makes you happy.

2) Thinking you’re a silver fox

Some men think that once they reach a certain age they can now be considered a silver fox and will advertise themselves on Australian dating sites like Adult Match Maker as a sexy, mature man. You need the right look and attitude to pull this off though, which most men don’t have. If you say you’re a silver fox but clearly aren’t then women are going to laugh and scroll past your profile. You can say you’re a silver fox if you’re in good shape and know how to present yourself otherwise you should make yourself look as attractive as possible but try not to draw attention to your age. There are young women who find older men attractive even if they don’t look perfect because it’s more about personality and making a good first impression than your overall appearance.

3) Bragging about your lifestyle

By dating younger women you’re the one who will have more experience and a longer work history which means you’re likely to own nicer things and can afford to go to more expensive restaurants or vacations. You want to be subtle about your lifestyle so you avoid attracting the wrong kind of younger women and avoid coming across as self-absorbed. You can casually talk about the restaurants you like to go to, the nice car you have, interesting vacations or any other status symbols if she brings it up first but don’t spend too much time talking about them.

4) Being too controlling

Women are a lot more independent now than they were ten or fifteen years ago and expect you to treat them like an equal. If you don’t then most won’t stick around for the long term so you need to be careful that your behaviour doesn’t come across as being too controlling. Acting too confident will make you seem aggressive so pay attention to how you’re acting and don’t do things like dominate the conversation, correct every time she makes a mistake or be the one who makes all the plans for your first date. Instead ask for her opinion now and again and listen to her so she feels like an equal.

5) Treating her like a child

You need to make sure you’re not treating her like a child because you can do this without realizing it since you’re aware of the age difference. You need to treat her like you treated girlfriends who were around the same age as you so she doesn’t feel awkward and so the age difference doesn’t become a problem. Behaviours that you should avoid include telling her you’ll bring her home early, sending more than one text to confirm where you’re meeting, reminding her to wear a jacket and ordering for her at a restaurant.

6) Using money to get her attention

You’re probably going to have more money than most young women but if you use it to get them interested in you then you’re going to attract those who are looking for a sugar daddy. You should never mention money until it becomes a serious relationship and even then you should keep finances separate as much as possible. You should also only pay for certain things, like offering to pay for her on the first few dates because that’s expected behaviour from a man. After that you should letting her pay her own way unless it’s a special occasion so she doesn’t see you as a rich older man that she can take advantage of.

7) Focusing too much on sex

Australian dating sites tend to be full of people looking for hookups and everyone knows this but you still need to act like a gentleman if you want to be successful. Take time messaging her and getting to know her so she doesn’t feel pressure from you or think that you only like her because she’s young. Wait awhile and give her a chance to bring up sex because she’ll feel more in control if she makes the first move.

8) Not acting your age

If you’re self-conscious about the age difference you’re going to try and overcompensate by acting younger as a way of hiding your true age. This won’t work and will just make the age difference more obvious and she won’t want to go out with you because you’ve made her feel uncomfortable. You should always be honest about your age because women can tell if you lie which will make them distrust you. Avoid using slang, wearing inappropriate clothes or talking about pop culture news as a way to appear closer to her age.

9) Suggesting an awkward first date

You need to know where your first date is going to happen ahead of time because you might make her change her mind if you suggest a place that will make her feel uncomfortable. You want to go to a place that both of you will enjoy so avoid places that are more age specific like clubs or certain types of restaurants. If you don’t know where to take her then ask her if she has a favourite restaurant or a movie that she’s wanted to see. This way it takes the pressure off you and makes her feel like you’re trying to get to know her better.

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Emily is based in Sydney.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.