9 Things you should never compromise on in relationships
Being willing and able to compromise is a healthy trait to have but only if you’re strong enough to stick to personal boundaries. It’s possible to be too flexible and this causes you to lose things that are important to you, like your happiness or financial freedom. This is why you need to be careful when you’re dating and know what your limits are so that you and your partner can be in an equal and loving relationship.
1) Financial Freedom
Financial freedom is vital because it gives you control and freedom which you need when you’re single and when you’re dating. You should never compromise on your finances because you can quickly be left with little in the bank if your partner is the type to take advantage of you. If you’re financially well-off they can guilt you into paying more than your share of expenses and if you’re on a budget they can emotionally guilt you by paying for stuff while making comments about you not doing enough. You need to keep track of your finances, always have some money in savings and only buy what you can afford.
2) Friendships
When you’re in a relationship it’s easy to drift away from friends and get caught up in the excitement of being in love. This is a phase that usually doesn’t last long but if your partner likes the attention they get from you they may try to keep you away from your friends. Your friendships need to be a priority because if you compromise on that you risk being isolated and dependent on your partner which isn’t a healthy way to live. When you notice it’s been awhile since you’ve spent time with friends you need to make an effort to see them and be insistent if your partner tries to stop you.
3) Happiness
When your partner tries to stop you from doing the things you enjoy or they belittle you on a regular basis you quickly end up in a negative state of mind. You feel trapped and when you try to do something fun you don’t get the same feeling that it used to give you. You have to focus on your happiness because this affects your well-being and your relationship. Take a break from your partner for a few days or talk to them about how you feel so that you can start the process of dealing with this.
4) Self-love
Self-love is something everyone needs to have because it’s about putting yourself first and making sure your mental, emotional and physical health are all in balance. When your partner puts you down, ignores your feelings or makes you feel unloved it eats away at your confidence and you stop taking care of yourself. You don’t feel like you’re good enough and this needs to change. Don’t compromise putting yourself first and do things like talking about yourself in a positive way, eating healthy, exercising and spending time on hobbies. These activities help you feel better about yourself which increases your confidence and this helps you make better decisions.
5) Your love of learning
Learning is something that everyone should do no matter how old they are because it keeps your mind active, it can be fun and beneficial plus it can be done at anytime and anywhere. You learn when you don’t even think about it, like when you need to figure out how to fix an item or when you look online for information. This is a good thing and you shouldn’t compromise it when your partner says it’s a waste of time or that they can do it instead. They’re trying to make you less capable so you have to ignore them and keep your love of learning. Focus on areas that interest you and increase your skill set so that you can become a more well-rounded person.
6) Hobbies
Having a hobby is part of a happy life because it gives you something to look forward to do, gives you a chance to spend time on an activity you’re passionate about and you get some time to yourself. When you have to compromise on having hobbies because your partner wants you to spend all your time with them or only do activities that they like then you end up losing some of your independence. They don’t want you to have anything that doesn’t involve them. You need to make sure have a set amount of time for hobbies so you can have some fun in life and make it part of your self-love routine.
7) Ambition
Ambition is what people need to make goals and achieve them, it makes people move forward in life and feel like they’re accomplishing something. You need to have ambition otherwise you become stuck in a rut, feel bored and lose interest in life. You can lose your ambition when you compromise on goals when your partner tells you it’s a waste of time and you’re going to fail. You believe them and you do the bare minimum to get through life because you don’t see the point in trying harder. You need to have short-term and long-term goals so you can stay motivated which puts you in a positive state of mind.
8) Independence
When you’re in a relationship you need to maintain your independence so that you don’t become isolated and vulnerable. If you let your partner take care of you too much or you do everything they want it becomes more difficult to function and you lose your ability to break up with them. You don’t want to become trapped in an unhealthy situation so never compromise on being independent. Spend time with family and friends, have time to yourself, only ask for your partner’s help when you need it and try not to change too much to make them happy. Being independent makes you stronger and leads to you being an equal in the relationship.
9) Values and beliefs
You need to always commit to your values and beliefs because these help you make the right decisions and set personal boundaries. When your partner asks you to do something you don’t feel comfortable with you have to turn them down because if you compromise your values you’re disappointing yourself. You start pushing boundaries more often to do what they want which leads to regrets and you lose your self-respect. You need to know when it’s appropriate to compromise, like if they have different religious beliefs, and know when you need to keep to your moral compass.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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