How to become more dominant in bed
When your sex life needs to be taken to the next level then consider trying rough sex. It’s not for everyone but the mix of pleasure and pain is exciting and can help you push your boundaries. BDSM is becoming more acceptable because of media exposure so your partner might be more willing to try it than you think.
Hard sex needs to start out slowly because if you jump straight into it there can be injuries or the other person might not enjoy it. You need to ease them into it so they can get used to doing something differently in bed and they’ll need time for the anticipation and arousal to grow. When you’re having sex with your partner you can pin her arms down on the bed or run your fingers through her hair and gently tug it so she has to look into your eyes as you fuck her. she’ll notice you’re acting differently so pay attention to her body language to see if she’s enjoying it or if she’s just going along with it to make you happy. After sex you can either wait for her to bring it up or ask her if she liked what you did. Tell her that it turned you on and that you wouldn’t mind taking it further. This gives her a chance to tell you how she really feels about it and she might even tell you what she wants you to do to her which will help you understand what her limits are.
When you have an idea about how far she’s willing to take things talk about the kinds of things you want to try because if you surprise her with bdsm then she might not like it. Listen to her ideas and put into play any that the two of you have in common because if you do one of her fantasies then she’ll see that it’s not all about what you want and it’s something you’re exploring together. You can try restraining her in bed with scarves or handcuffs to give her a taste of being helpless and you can bring pain into it by sucking on her breasts and lightly grazing your teeth over her sensitive nipple. When she’s gotten used to pain during sex you can increase the volume by doing activities like spanking or whipping.
Your body language during hard sex is important because it’s a silent reminder that you’re in charge and she’s not to disobey you. Always act confident and like you know what you’re doing so she never has a chance to take control. Stand straight in front of her or lean over her to use your body as a way to show your power over her and to make her feel small and helpless. Always look her in the face so she feels your attention on her and never get too distracted in what you’re feeling because it can be easy to lose the rhythm.
Domination doesn’t have to be physical; it can also be verbal. Start sex by saying “You’re mine tonight.” or “You’re going to do what I tell you to. Understand?” Put yourself in control as soon as you can and keep control by telling her what to do. Don’t ask her what do, tell her by saying “Get on your knees.” or “Touch yourself for me.” Make her aware of her desire for obedience by asking “Do you like this?” and “Do you want more?”. Make her beg for you to dominate her and to give her more of it.
Take your time by giving small domination touches like pinning your arms and add more activities as she gets comfortable with it. Talk openly about what both of you want to try and remember to use body language and verbal cues during sex to make it a full experience.
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