How to end an affair without angering your sex partner
Most affairs end with a break up and if you do it the wrong way then you risk angering your sex partner. You want to avoid this happening because it increases the chance of her telling your wife about what happened. By making the experience as smooth as possible and showing a bit of consideration for her feelings you can make sure both of you feel good about everything.
Once you know that you’re ending things you can slowly change your behavior so that she gets a sense that something’s different. She’ll wonder what it is and might realize what’s going on. Act distant with her and spend less time with her so you get used to not seeing her. Don’t respond to every message she sends and when you do reply keep the messages short. Give her the impression that the excitement and lust you felt for her is fading so the break up seems like it happened slowly and naturally.
You need to break up with your partner in a public place so she doesn’t make a scene. A place like a quiet bar is good because you can have a couple of drinks to calm down and ease into the conversation. Be gentle and choose your words carefully by saying “I’ve enjoyed these last few months with you but…” instead of “I want to break up with you.” This won’t make you seem like a cold-hearted guy who was just using her and now you’re done. Make her believe that you truly like her as a person but that you’re emotionally ready to move on.
You need to make her believe that the break up is your fault and not hers so she doesn’t get angry or hurt. Don’t mention your wife or marriage because she’ll feel like you’re choosing them over her and she might think about how to ruin things so you’ll go back to her. By putting the focus on yourself the issue stays between the two of you. Tell her that your feelings have changed and that you don’t think the relationship has a future. It will soften the blow if you make her feel better during your break up talk so remember to tell her that you loved spending time with her and that you were lucky to meet a woman like her.
You’ve probably been planning the break up for a while so you’re used to the idea but it’s a shock to her and she’s going to need time to deal with it. Give her some time to take in what you’ve said and let her talk about how she feels. If you don’t then her negative emotions are going to build up and she’s going to want revenge. Listen to what she says so she can get all her thoughts and emotions out and dealt with but don’t let her talk you into giving the affair another chance. Gently but firmly let her know that it’s over.
Ending an affair takes a bit of planning so that you don’t make it worse than it needs to be. You need to think about your sex partner’s feelings and make the break up as easy for them as possible so tell them in person that you’re breaking up with them. Blame yourself so they don’t think it’s their fault and let them tell you what they think of your decision.
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