What to do when my ex-girlfriend is stalking me
Having an exgf stalking you is a serious situation; one that can lead to anxiety and depression as well as becoming dangerous if nothing is done to solve the issue. If this is happening to you then you need to come up with a plan to deal with it and make it stop so you can get back to living your life.
Your ex-girlfriend probably knows your friends and family and because she’s a girl they’d never expect her to harass you. She might use them to get to you so you need to tell them what’s going on. Don’t try to make the situation sound worse than it is or exaggerate things to make them be on your side because they might not take it seriously. Instead calmly tell them that she’s harassing you and that you want nothing more to do with her. Explain to them that you want their support and that you’re trying to deal with the situation.
You need to tell your ex-girlfriend once and only once to stop and leave you alone. Tell her that you’ll take legal action if she keeps stalking you. This will show her that you’re serious and that there will be consequences to her actions. After you’ve done this you need to cut off contact to show her that you meant what you said about having nothing more to do with her. Don’t reply to any texts or emails that she sends you and if she shows up at your home don’t answer the door.
You need to make a log of all the things that your ex does so you have proof of what’s going on if you need to get a restraining order. Make sure you write down all the details like the date, time, location and exactly what happened. If there were any witnesses make a note of it in case you need them to help prove you’re telling the truth. Don’t tell anyone about this and make a backup copy in case something happens to the original.
It’s a good idea to change your contact information like your email address and telephone number to make it harder for her to get in touch. If you think she’s dangerous or that things are escalating then consider moving or staying at a friend’s place for a few weeks. Only give your new information to a handful of people and make it clear to them that you don’t want them to share it with anybody else.
Changing your daily routine can also make it more difficult to stalk you because she won’t know where you’re going or what you’re doing. Stop going to your favorite restaurants and wither find new places to go to or start cooking more at home. If you have a club that you always go to you can try somewhere new and go with a couple of friends so they can act as a buffer if she still manages to follow you. This isn’t permanent because eventually she’ll realize she isn’t being successful so try and have fun with it by leaving your old lifestyle behind and trying something new.
Tell your friends what’s going on so she can’t manipulate them and make it more difficult for her to contact you by changing your email address and phone number. Don’t interact with her and make a log of all the things she does so you have proof of what’s going on. Eventually she’ll move on or you can try to get a restraining order.
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