10 Reasons your dating profile sucks (And how to fix it)
A big complaint about online dating is that it’s hard to meet people because no one messages you and you have to contact multiple people just to find one person who’s willing to talk to you. The problem can be with your dating profile and it’s not doing a good job of attracting attention or it’s making the wrong impression. Women don’t want to message a guy who’s only interested in sex or who sounds like a narcissist, they only spend time messaging guys who they think are boyfriend material. You need to make some changes so that you seem like a great catch because if you don’t you’re going to be stuck in the single life.
1) Not filling out all of your dating profile
Not having enough information on your dating profile sends the wrong message because it makes people think you’re either lazy, not serious about meeting people or a scammer. This makes them skip over your profile and only look at profiles which look like an effort was made with them. Sometimes on a dating profile there are many different sections to fill out and this can be a lot of work but you don’t need to fill all of it out. You should fill out at least half of the sections, especially relevant ones that contain basic information and ones about your hobbies and interests. This is to showcase whom you really are and give an idea of what you’re like in person so people can see if you’re a good match and message you.
2) Having too few pictures
A dating profile with none or one picture looks like an old profile or a fake one. Women will see it and wonder why you don’t have any pictures to share which makes you seem untrustworthy. It’s a good idea to be cautious about sharing too much online but you can upload pictures that don’t show your face and make a note in your dating profile that you’re willing to send face pictures privately. Having four or five pictures can put them at ease and you need to include a mix of selfies along with pictures of you in a social setting.
3) Being too sexual
There’s an expectation of sex on dating sites but being too sexual right away is a big turn off for most people. They want a hint of sexuality then a build up of sexual tension which usually happens by seeing someone you’re attracted to, getting in touch and exchanging sexual messages and pictures once there’s a connection. Being sexually graphic in your description or uploading a ton of pictures of you half-naked takes away the excitement and mystery. Get rid of anything too sexual and wait until the right moment to gradually turn up the heat.
4) Having a list of requirements
If you have a list of requirements written on your dating profile such as how potential partners must look, their age range, their weight and what they need to be interested in then you’re making a big mistake. You sound like a narcissist who only dates women who are lucky enough to live up to his expectations and a lot of women are going to bypass your profile because they don’t want you to criticize them. You’re missing out on a lot of opportunities by being demanding and you should only have basic expectations on your dating profile, like being around your age and being close enough to meet in person.
5) Bragging about money
When you’re tired of the single life you want to get back into the dating scene as quickly as possible and will do what you think will attract women. You want to make yourself seem desirable and interesting so in your dating profile will mention having a good paying job, enjoying the finer things in life and regularly going on vacation. This is bragging about money and the only kind of people you’ll attract are gold diggers. You need to be humble and say you have a full time job and enjoy going on a nice vacation each year.
6) No romance
Men and women tend to look for different things when checking out a dating profile: men want visual stimulation and will look at pictures while women want their fantasies brought to life and will look for romance. If your profile is full of half-naked pictures and a boring date idea like dinner and a movie then it won’t get a lot of interest. To get out of the single life you need to put sex on the back burner and be more romantic by describing your dream date as being a sunset picnic or stargazing.
7) Talking about how great you are
You sound like a narcissist if all you talk about is how great you are, that you’re boyfriend material and that you know how to please a woman in the bedroom. When women hear this they think you’re arrogant, selfish and over compensating so they don’t waste time getting to know you. You should never say that you’re a great boyfriend or amazing in the bedroom because they can find that out for themselves.
8) Complaining about the single life
Most people assume you’re single when they see your dating profile and they don’t think much about it because they’re in the same situation. It’s going to become a problem if you complain about the single life by saying you can’t remember the last time you went on a date and that it’s so hard to meet someone. The person reading that will wonder what’s wrong with you and won’t want to find out why you can’t get a date. All you need to say is that you’re getting back in the dating game and leave it at that.
9) Too many spelling mistakes or slang
Having too many spelling mistakes or using slang in your dating profile makes you look childish or lazy and those aren’t attractive qualities in a partner. Using slang doesn’t make you sound cool and women hate it when you use words like ‘babe’ or ‘sweetie’ so use ‘woman’ instead and fix spelling errors that you notice. Read everything you’ve written and ask a friend to look it over as well so it sounds like it was written by a mature adult.
10) Mentioning divorce or children
They see divorce and wonder if you’re still going through proceedings and they think you don’t have time to seriously date if you mention it throughout your profile. These are things you should only briefly mention so people are aware of it but don’t bring it up in messages unless they do.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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