When and how to introduce sex toys to your relationship
For some people they think of using sex toys when the idea of taboo sex comes up. It can be an awkward thing to bring up because you don’t know how your partner will react and you don’t want to cause any problems between the two of you. You want to choose the right moment so it can be a fun new part of your sex life.
It’s best to wait until you’re at the point in your relationship where sex has become a routine. This may be six months into the relation, a year or even longer. You’ll know you’ve reached this point when sex isn’t as exciting as it used to be and you’re not having it as often. When you’re snuggled up in bed and in relaxed mood conversations happens easier so choose a time like this.
When you decide it’s time to bring the idea of using sex toys up to your partner you should do it in a playful or laid back way. If you’re too serious then it might hurt their feelings or feel like they’re no longer enough to make you happy. Casually ask if they’ve thought about doing something different in the bedroom or if they were interested in trying sex toys. Avoid saying something like “Do you think our sex life’s not as good as it used to be?” and instead say “I think it would be hot if we did something different.” Get her thinking about all things you can do then say “Maybe we could use sex toys or something.” Say it while touching her to keep her in the mood and pay attention to how she reacts. If she seems open to it then take it further.
It’s important to know what types of sex toys she’s interested in because it’s not just about what you want. Tell her that you want to make her wildest fantasies come true and listen with an open mind as she shares them with you. Some women love the idea of being submissive so maybe she’s interested in handcuffs and whips. If she wants to see what it’s like to take control then maybe she’s interested in using a strap-on with you. Listen to her ideas then tell her which ones you’d like to try. Going with what she wants first is a good way to show her that you’re serious and it will make her more likely to try something that you’re interested in.
After you’ve talked about what kind of sex toys you’d like to try then you could buy one without telling her and surprise her in bed one night with it. The spontaneity will add excitement and turn her on even more. You could also go shopping as a couple to buy sex toys and discover ones that you hadn’t even considered trying. A great time to go to an adult store is after a romantic date because she’s going to be in a good mood and a naughty shopping trip might be a fun way to end the night.
If bringing sex toys into the bedroom is something that you want to do then casually bring it up with your partner and make it sound like it could be a fun way to change things up. Talk about what turns you on and use this opportunity to bring the two of you closer together.
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