Sex tips for men: 11 Clear signs you are not having enough sex
Men have higher sex drives than women and it’s common for them to feel like they don’t have sex often enough but they aren’t sure if it’s really the way things are or if they’re partner just isn’t as interested in having an active sex life. You also might not realize that lack of sex is the issue in your relationship until you go to couples therapy so there’s no harm in taking some time right now to take a good look at how often you have sex and whether or not it’s enough to satisfy you.
1) You masturbate more than you have sex
Everyone masturbates but that slows down when they’re in a relationship because they’re satisfying their sexual urges by having sex with their partner. You’re missing out on the bond that you feel with someone when all you’re doing is masturbating and you’re not going to feel fulfilled. If you’re masturbating more than you have sex then you need to see if there’s a way you can spice up the relationship or try couples therapy. If you’re single then you need to start making more of an effort to date because sex can be more emotionally fulfilling than masturbation.
2) You’re more upset than usual
When you have sex, you’re experiencing a release and it’s good for you mentally as well as physically because endorphins are being released which make you feel happier and more relaxed. When you’re not getting enough sex, you’re going to start dealing with sexual frustration and you’ll feel on edge. Things will start to upset you more easily and your relationship and friendships will suffer because you’ll be lashing out as a way of dealing with the pent up stress.
3) You think about sex all the time
Men think about sex a lot but when they have an active sex life it lessens their thoughts because they’re getting what they want and they feel satisfied. When you don’t have sex enough you’re going to start thinking about it all the time because your body needs and wants it and your thoughts are your body’s way of drawing your attention to it. You’ll waste time thinking about your fantasies and will be distracted from more important things like work.
4) You don’t have an active sex life
Not having an active sex life is fine if you’re the type of person who doesn’t have a high sex drive but if you do have a high sex drive then it will affect your daily life. If you notice a sudden change in your thoughts or behaviour then it can be your way of dealing with sexual frustration. Think about how often you have sex now and how often you had it in the past because if there’s a noticeable difference then you need to decide if you’re okay with the way things are or if you need to start making some changes.
5) Your confidence has fallen
Your confidence might suffer if you’re not having enough sex because it’s tied to testosterone levels and the way society sees men. When you don’t have enough sex, you feel like you’re not acting the way a man should act and that there’s something wrong with you. You’re going to doubt yourself and this will make it more difficult to date or have sex because you feel like you’re not good enough. You need to make sure your needs are being met in all areas of life, including in the bedroom.
6) You think about hooking up with an ex
Hooking up with an ex is usually a bad idea because that relationship ended for a reason but you might consider doing it if you’re not having enough sex because it’s somebody you know and they could be single too or they could want to get back together. This will make your life complicated because it’s unlikely both of you will be on the same page and that much hassle isn’t worth sex.
7) You’re jealous of your friends
You’re going to be more jealous than usual of your friends because you know they’re having more sex with you and you’ll notice how it affects them. They’ll seem more relaxed and happier with their lives and you’re going to feel left out. Guys brag about sex and your friends will be talking about their hookups and you’ll know their life is more exciting than yours. You won’t be able to stand it and you’ll spend less time with them because your jealousy will become overwhelming.
8) You always go to porn sites when you’re online
A lack of sex will make you think about sex more often and need it more than ever so you’ll start doing things like automatically going to porn sites when you’re online as a way to satisfy your cravings. This will become a habit that you’ll find hard to break because it will relieve some of the sexual frustration and you’ll want more of a release.
9) You’re more aware of women
You’ll be more aware of women after you’ve gone awhile without sex because your brain knows you’re missing their presence. You won’t always notice them in a sexual and small things like brushing against someone will get your attention. You’ll also notice that you’re attracted to women you wouldn’t usually date because you’re so desperate for sex that you’ll settle for anyone you can get.
10) You get turned on easily
You’ll get turned on easily when you’re sex deprived because your body is craving intimacy and getting turned on is it’s way of getting you to act on your desires. Small things that could turn you on are the scent of perfume, brushing up against someone, a woman in a sexy outfit or a romantic scene in a tv show. You’ll find sexual desire in almost anything and this will lead to you thinking about sex constantly.
11) You find masturbating to be unsatisfying
You’re going to masturbate a lot when you don’t have an active sex life so it’s just a matter of time before it becomes boring and unsatisfying. The need for sex won’t go away because masturbation is just a substitute and it will become a habit that you need to do instead of a fun activity that you occasionally do. It will give you a small bit of relief though so you’ll do it more often to try and get complete satisfaction.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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